Transcript: Reneé Rapp on Good Hang with Amy Poehler
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Hello everyone and welcome to another
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episode of Good Hang. Boy, we have a
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superstar, a pop star, an incredibly
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talented, wonderful woman named Renee
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Rap joining us today. We're so excited
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to have Renee here. We are going to talk
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about so many things. We're going to
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talk about falling in love. We're going
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to talk about standing up to bullies.
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We're going to listen to her new music,
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which is incredible. Her um record, Bite
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Me, is coming out at the end of the
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summer, and her new single um Leave Me
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Alone is out now. It's so good. And um
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we're going to talk about what it means
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to uh to make music during these times.
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It's fun and funny and I can't wait for
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you to listen. And we start these
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podcasts the same way all the time. We
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try to get our guests friends or fans or
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people who uh want to give me a question
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to ask our guest on the line. And today
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we have Cara Deivine, beautiful actress,
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model director
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gal about town, a total delight. And
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Cara is joining us from Paris and she's
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going to tell me what to ask Renee. Hi
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Cara.
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[Music]
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Hello Cara.
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Hi. Hi. How are you? It's nice to meet
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you. Have we never met? I I mean I feel
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like perhaps I've walked past you at an
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event and I've never stopped you and
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hugged you.
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Not yet, but now. But now rude.
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Like I feel like I I just I adore you
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and I'm such a huge fan and I feel like
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I know you so well because I think Parks
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and Wreck probably saved my life during
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co. So like I feel like I know you. So
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if I'd seen you, I would have run up to
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you and probably kissed your feet if I'm
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going to be real with you. I just I just
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got back from work, so I'm just getting
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into my hotel room and then I will sit
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down. Of course, take your time. We we
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have people doing these Zooms from uh
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restaurant bathrooms, from set, from
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cars. So, Oh, perfect. I'm talking to
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Amy Polar. I'm on her podcast. My
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girlfriend's a big fan. She's freaked
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out. She doesn't understand.
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I I would turn the camera up, but she's
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naked. Oh my god. That's how I imagine
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your life. That's how exactly how I love
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the podcast. Yes, I know. I just We do
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good hang. We are good at We're the best
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hang. Okay, so we're talking to the
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great Renee Rap today. Who? Exactly.
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Just be your favorite. And I know Can
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you tell me how you guys met? I
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literally don't even think we've known
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each other that long, but
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uh through my old manager was like, you
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know, I always want to be behind the
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camera in as many ways possible, and I
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think music videos is a great way of
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doing that. and he was like, "Would you
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be interested in um directing a video
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for Renee Rap?" And I was like, "Yeah,
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obviously. Let me let's talk though.
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Let's get on the phone." And what I
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realized about Renee, again, for someone
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who is nearly 10 years younger than me,
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she is
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I mean, a consumate professional. Her
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voice can just like break me to the
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floor while also like lift my spirits.
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But also when you work with someone
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who's a musician who's also an actor and
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who's so brilliant and just can like
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take direction, take notes, be
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spontaneous.
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Um,
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yeah, she's so good at that. Okay. And
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then, um, my question to you is, what do
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you think I should ask Renee today?
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There's a lot I know about her, but I
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want to hear what you think. I had so
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many questions that I wanted to ask and
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then I realized a lot of people won't
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understand the question. So for
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everyone, the questions that I wanted to
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ask her, number one was if she was a
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drag king, so not a drag queen for the
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people that don't know that a drag king,
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so dresses in drag as a man, what would
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her drag name be? Great. Very important.
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What would yours be? Okay, let me think
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about this. Well, I'm going to think
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about the old trick where you sometimes
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take the street you grew up on and your
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first pet name. So, mine would be
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Bradley Alangquin.
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Hot. I can imagine the dance you're
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doing, too. Like, so my guy, I think,
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would probably be a professor, like some
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kind of professor with a mustache with
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braces, a bow tie. Yeah. and just and
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he's just like uh he's just kind of like
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sternly telling you to get your work
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done. Obsessed
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disciplinarian professor Al Gangquin. I
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can't claim this one, but someone a drag
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king is called Clintit Eastwood, which I
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just
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incredible. I wish I made that up. It's
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not mine. I don't know what mine would
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be, but I'm not the one being asked
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questions. And the other question would
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be Oh. Oh. If Renee had to be in a girl
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band like the Spice Girls, it doesn't
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matter how many people of of female
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singers, rappers, whoever, dead or
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alive, who would it be? Honestly, that's
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the hardest question, I think. Oh,
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that's such a good question. Renee is
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going to be so happy that we talked
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today, I think, cuz you know, these are
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always surprises. So, [ __ ] Renee. Any
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excuse to talk to you, Emmy. Good night.
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Anytime. Thank you. You're the best. To
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anyone. Oh my gosh. But no, I love
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Renee. I'm so glad. No.
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Okay. Well, just come back next week and
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we'll just talk about whoever that is. I
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will. I'm going to find a job to do so I
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can just come and talk about it. Yes,
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please. I would love that. That's how it
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works. Okay. Thank you so much for your
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time. Bye.
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Renee, I'm so happy you're here. I've
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been listening to your I've been lucky
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enough to listen to your Can we listen
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to your song right now?
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Please. Okay. Of course. I love this
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song.
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Is it weird to listen to your music? I
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mean, I'm forced to listen to it a lot.
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So, no, it's not weird. Is this your
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first single? Mhm.
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It's fun. It's so good. It's got like a
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runaways Joan Jet vibe. Yeah. Oh, 100%.
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100%. I know. I like it. And it's very
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crunchy. Thanks, dude. Thanks. I'm
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partial. It's so good to like music.
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100%. I really like your music. Thank
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you. It's very sweet. I really like your
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music. I'm glad that you like it. It
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would be [ __ ] if you hated it. Yeah. I
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wouldn't tell you. You know what I mean?
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But but it's This record is so good.
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Congratulations. We're going to talk all
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about it. Thanks. Um, how are you today?
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How are you feeling today? Good. Renee
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Rap. Yeah. I first met you without you
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meeting me. So, I guess I should say I
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first saw you on Tina Fay's phone.
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Love. I mean, that's kind of like a sick
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thing for me to know that that's where
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you've first seen me. I'm like, "Oh my
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god, it's so cute." I saw Tina said,
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"Listen to this woman sing basically and
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played a video of you singing and we
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both kind of watched it together in awe
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as I imagine a lot of people do when
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they first hear you sing." Thanks. And
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you were, you know, I think you were
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already hired maybe at that point to do
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Mean Girls. Um, which was, give us a
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sense of what time that was. What year
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was that? probably tw probably 2019,
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right? And you were how old? 19. Dang.
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And what do you remember around that
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time about getting that part? I was just
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like so entitled. I was just so
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entitled. I was just like, "Yeah, okay,
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sure thing." You were like, "I got it.
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Nailed it." What? Do you remember the
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audition? Yeah, totally. What was it
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like?
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I auditioned a bunch of times and when I
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first auditioned I remember I was like I
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need to dress really girly and at that
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time in my life I was like
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I mean I was dressing horrifically first
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of all dressing like an infinity scarf a
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legging like I was I was like my like
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And you're telling me those are not
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cool? Um no no no like I love a little
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like small infinity scarf you know like
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tiny knit. Yeah. But that was just like
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I don't know. I was just dressing crazy.
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I was dressing crazy. I had also like
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just started making money. So I
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discovered like athleisure and I was
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like a musical theater person who was
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moving to New York and I was like,
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"Fuck, you guys all wear these little
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[ __ ] Lululemon skirts." Right. Right.
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Right. [ __ ] I got to get one. So I
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was dressing crazy. So I was like, "All
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right, I got to dress the part." Mhm.
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And I looked [ __ ] insane. I just
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looked so terrible. And I remember being
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like, I can't walk in these heels and
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this skirt is like making my ass sweat
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so crazy. I have to go home. And I did a
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terrible terrible first audition. It's
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true. The wrong clothes can ruin you.
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Yeah. Big time. [ __ ] you up. I I
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hated it. Hated it. Hated it up. So then
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the next audition I went back, changed
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clothes, wore some pants, skinny jeans.
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Hey, that was nice. And I looked less
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bad. Mhm. Did better. What did you sing
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for your audition? Do you remember? No,
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but I remember that an ex-boyfriend
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picked it out for me.
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Yeah. Cuz I was like, he was a musical
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theater major in college and just
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smarter than I was. And he was like, oh,
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I think I said something. I was like,
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I'm going to sing like a Beyonce song.
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And he was like like what the [ __ ] for
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he's like like cool. But at that time it
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wasn't like you know the girls weren't
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doing pop like I think they are now.
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Yeah. And um he gave me something. [ __ ]
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I don't remember. He was like sing
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something from HMS Pinnhor. Literally.
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He was like in a color dream coat.
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Exactly. Exactly. So, I remember I did
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that and then after that the auditions I
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went back I just had to sing songs from
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the show and that was way [ __ ] easier
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cuz I hate having to make decisions.
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Written by the great Jeff Richmond.
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Let's give it up for Jeff Richmond who's
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an incredible musician and Tina's
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husband and my friend for many years.
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He's so talented. There are no two
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people cuter. It's kind of outrageous.
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They are a power couple. It is kind of
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outrageous. And I am not the biggest fan
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of musicals. Sorry. I like them. I don't
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love them. I'm not either. love the Mean
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Girls musical. I love the music in it.
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It's really fun. It's really, really
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fun. What was it like doing a Broadway
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show and how many shows did you end up
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doing before co hit? I mean, it was
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super [ __ ] hard.
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Um,
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I don't know. I did like six and a half
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months. So, I did like half of what
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would have been my like contract. Um,
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just I did a ton of [ __ ] shows. You
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just do literally so many. Holy [ __ ]
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And the hardest part of your day is at
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the end of your day. Absolutely.
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Actually, do you know what? No. The
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hardest part of my day was like the
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mental game of waking up and waiting the
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entire day. Yeah. And planning your
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entire life around doing a show at
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night. And I want to I know you identify
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prim, you know, like you identify gay.
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Yes. We're going to talk about that. No.
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No.
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Rude. Yeah. But you identify as a
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musician and singer in many ways more
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than an actor, right? Is that Is that
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true? I think so. Okay. But I do want to
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just talk about the Jimmy Awards,
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please. Because please, for people who
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don't know what the Jimmy Awards are,
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what are they for people who have never
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seen them? The
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most intense,
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hormonal, um, scary. Yeah, scary. Really
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intense. And I don't say that about
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other people. I mean that more about
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like myself. Like I was a [ __ ]
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terror. I didn't make a friend the
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entire week. So they're a high school
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competition. Yeah. Okay. So yes,
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actually. So what it is is a high school
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theater. I'm like went way in. Yeah. No,
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it's a high school theater competition
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uh all across the country. Yes. Correct.
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And everyone kind of competes and a lot
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of like very famous people have been
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discovered through the Jimmy Awards. You
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being one of them. Do you feel like you
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were discovered because you did the
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Jimmy Awards? Like in many ways were you
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I feel like I mean it definitely like it
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definitely gave me like leverage because
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I was like just just kind of an [ __ ]
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and I was like you guys are going to pay
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attention to me whether you like it or
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not. Yeah. You were really feel like
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that's the when I watch your performance
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on it that is definitely what I feel is
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this vibe of um I'm I've arrived and I'm
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ready. You felt that then?
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Like
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Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, definitely. Have you
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always been this kind of person, Renee?
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Like a you had some kind of inner
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compass that like tells you
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you have. Yeah, definitely. Yeah. Where
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do you think that comes from? I
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literally have no idea. Like from
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inception
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to now, same way. Same way. Like always.
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And don't get me wrong, like I think my
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parents have those qualities.
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Absolutely. But like even before, you
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know, when you're like a little tiny
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thing and you start to sort of like take
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on parts of your own personality and as
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those become, you know, what they are, I
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was always like just like super driven,
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crazy, like little bit angry and like
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ready to go. That's And do you think you
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like and this is a little woowoo, but do
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you think you've lived before? Do you
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think you've been here before? Cuz
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that's a very, you know, it's like did
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you think you arrived with some like are
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you a reincarnated?
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No, there's no way cuz I wouldn't have
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come back. I'd be like, I'm not doing
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this [ __ ] again. I'm like, I'm not doing
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that [ __ ] again. No, this is your first
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time. You're so centered. Got to be.
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From a little from a young age, you know
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who you are. Definitely. I I think I'm
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just very like I just always been very
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feisty. Yeah. But also when when I was
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like being born I guess when I was being
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born and like in when I was there being
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born when I was like shooting out my mom
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uh like chose my first and last name to
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be well okay arguably chose my first and
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last name to both have like ours.
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just in case she um wants to be a pop
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star,
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which is so [ __ ] assed.
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And I'm obsessed with the way she did
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it. I'm like, thank you, God. She gave
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you a pop star name just in case because
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Renee Rap is a huge pop star name. It's
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a really good one. And Renee Rap is a
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huge pop star. Yeah. Um, do you remember
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the moment when you sang or when you
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watched people realize that you had an
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exceptional voice? You have an
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exceptional voice, beautiful voice that
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can do don't so many things. And
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everybody says like, "Oh, my kid's a
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good singer. You know, my daughter loves
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to sing." Whatever. But there is always
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a moment where somebody sings and
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everyone looks at each other and says,
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"Holy [ __ ] she's really good." Do you
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remember a moment where you or someone
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locked in and knew you know your
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ambition and talent were matching? Mm-
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It didn't match for a very long time.
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Really? No, I don't think. Well, are you
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hard on yourself? 100%. But also, my
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parents were never like, "My kid's a
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[ __ ] star." Yeah. They were like like
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I would I would like come off of like a
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stage or even like I played a lot of
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sports growing up come off the field
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like court whatever and they'd be like
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you know where you messed up and I'd be
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like I'm five this is crazy this is
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crazy but also my dad has relative pitch
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so he's very musically inclined relative
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pitch so basically like if I was flat
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he'd know like he has a really good ear
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really good ear so he was always like
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you you know where you were flat, right?
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So I was I was like [ __ ] So they were
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really getting you trained like you're
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you're are you trained or did you ever
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do any musical training like any I did
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like I was in choir. Yeah, I was in
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choir. I took piano lessons um when I
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was a kid but they give me panic
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attacks. I got very stressed and I would
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start crying. So I stopped. Good. Got
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rid of that. But I did I feel like choir
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was like how I learned kind of how to
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like blend. So I don't want to say like
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no I have no training. What were you?
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Were you alto? What were you in your I
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was alto in choir. You have the hardest
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lines. Thank you so much. You have the
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hardest lines. Yeah. Cuz altos sing like
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they're far away from the choir and
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singing a different song. Yes. Oh 100%.
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They're just like and I will.
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Yeah. And the sopranos or what were you?
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Were you soprano? I was I was a soprano.
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Congrats. I was a soprano. Thank you.
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But also sopranos are [ __ ] Like if
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you're a soprano
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like oh congratulations. You you get to
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sing the song, right? Exactly. The altos
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have to sing some weird durge that is
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underneath. Not even of course. It's
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like you know the um All I Want for
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Christmas is what the [ __ ] alto line.
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Okay. What is it? It's just like Okay.
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You sing the I don't want to for
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Christmas. There is just one thing I
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need. And I
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like it's the same [ __ ] the whole song.
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And that's exactly what being an alto in
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a choir is. And then occasionally having
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to memorize the most difficult line of
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music that has nothing to do with what
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the song is. Couldn't be less. It is so
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confusing. And you know what happens
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when those altos go away? The song falls
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apart. Falls apart. You have like a very
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shrill pitchy soprano and like tenor
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boys who are like not at all developed
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yet singing like [ __ ] Yeah. The altos
- 19:17
are gone. The bottom of the pyramid. The
- 19:19
altos are like when you do the
- 19:20
cheerleader pyramid. If all those bottom
- 19:23
gals decided to just leave. What are you
- 19:26
What are you doing when the bottoms are
- 19:27
gone? We always say that. What are you
- 19:29
going to do when the bottoms are gone?
- 19:31
Nothing to top. Nothing. Nothing to top.
- 19:34
No one to top if the altos are removed.
- 19:36
That's why my girlfriend needs me.
- 19:38
That's it, right? She needs me. It's
- 19:40
interesting what I'm realizing is I'm
- 19:42
asking you these like Yeah. technical
- 19:44
questions, but I'm realizing how you
- 19:46
come to singing is very intuitive. It's
- 19:48
like what you're feeling in the moment.
- 19:50
Totally. So, do you do vocal warm-ups?
- 19:52
No. Incredible. Hate. Can't do it. Don't
- 19:55
like them. Mhm. Don't like them. Makes
- 19:57
me too anxious. Puts me in my head.
- 19:59
Anytime I've ever done a warm-up before
- 20:05
a performance,
- 20:07
I have done. So, [ __ ] That is so
- 20:11
interesting. I I can understand that cuz
- 20:13
it then becomes very important. Yeah.
- 20:16
And I'm like thinking about it and I'm
- 20:18
thinking about the like different
- 20:20
technicalities or whatever my voice and
- 20:22
I don't that's not how I learned how to
- 20:26
sing. So, I don't think
- 20:29
Whenever I try and do that, it's kind of
- 20:31
like going back on the actual thing that
- 20:34
I know how to do. How did you learn how
- 20:36
to sing? How would you describe it?
- 20:37
Listen to Beyonce. Tried to match it.
- 20:40
Like genuinely like I was like, "Well,
- 20:43
this is it." Yeah. So, I got to do that.
- 20:46
Yes. You know, you like you let music
- 20:49
come from all around you and you and
- 20:51
like you you brought music in and you're
- 20:53
less concerned about trying to be 100%.
- 20:57
Yeah. 100%. Have you met and talked to
- 20:59
Beyonce?
- 21:01
I I have met
- 21:04
I have met Beyonce. Would you like to
- 21:06
tell us? Would you like to tell us how?
- 21:08
I was forced. Okay. By management. No.
- 21:12
Um by one of my best friends who is like
- 21:17
just she will always introduce me to
- 21:19
someone. Always. She's like you must.
- 21:22
And for Beyonce she was like this is
- 21:24
your like hero. like this is your set
- 21:28
the scene. Where were you? So, we were
- 21:30
at a party after I just told everybody
- 21:33
um at this Oscars party that Nemo was
- 21:35
the best film ever made and they're
- 21:37
like, "Cool, she's going to work for a
- 21:39
long time."
- 21:41
and we went to an afterparty and I was
- 21:45
with like two or three of my really good
- 21:47
friends and my friend Cara is like the
- 21:51
best person to have out with you because
- 21:53
she is like your biggest cheerleader
- 21:55
ever. Is that Cara Deivine? Yes. She
- 21:59
like she will take you she just like
- 22:03
will literally she'll be like Rene I got
- 22:05
to like hold you for a sec. like she's
- 22:06
like one of the greatest friends on
- 22:07
planet Earth, but knows how much I love
- 22:09
Beyonce and is really fearless about it.
- 22:13
And um I was like, "Oh my [ __ ] god."
- 22:16
I was like, "Byc is literally standing
- 22:18
here. That's so crazy." And the whole
- 22:20
day she had been saying she was like,
- 22:21
"We're just going to introduce you to
- 22:22
her like like they invited you. Like
- 22:24
it's okay. Like she like you guys like
- 22:26
I'm sure that she loves you." I was
- 22:28
like, "No, no, no. Like we really should
- 22:30
like tone it down." Mhm. And I was Did
- 22:35
you see her in the room? Yeah. No,
- 22:37
definitely. Okay. You had some liquid
- 22:38
courage. She was in the room. Yeah, she
- 22:40
was in the room. And um very blonde and
- 22:43
I think like probably the most beautiful
- 22:45
person I've ever seen um in real life
- 22:49
ever. And I love my girlfriend, but like
- 22:52
she knows you don't compete where you
- 22:53
can't compare. And I I like that saying.
- 22:57
Can't like can't like what are you going
- 22:58
to do? You put anyone in a category with
- 23:00
Beyonce, it's going down. So, sure. Cara
- 23:04
was like, "You must say hi to her." I'm
- 23:05
like getting so anxious talking about
- 23:06
it. It makes me I'm like, I could vomit.
- 23:09
She was like, "You have to." And I was
- 23:11
like, "You walk me up there, [ __ ] and
- 23:13
I will kill you. I'll kill you in front
- 23:15
of everybody here." Sounds like you
- 23:17
meant the opposite.
- 23:19
The truth is I didn't. You didn't. Oh,
- 23:22
she dragged me. And I was like having
- 23:24
such a like a visceral rea. I was like,
- 23:26
"This is my hero. I can't do this. I
- 23:28
would never even like want to bother her
- 23:30
or anything. And
- 23:33
I just And she was like, "Oh my god."
- 23:34
Hi. I was like, "You don't have to do
- 23:37
that. It's okay." Um, love you. Lovely
- 23:41
to meet you. You got really sleepy. And
- 23:43
I I just was like I like couldn't look
- 23:45
at her at all. I also was super um I
- 23:49
love to have a good time and I was gone.
- 23:51
So I was like, "Hey, so nice to meet
- 23:53
you. Thanks for having was like, you
- 23:54
know, you like basically you hurried her
- 23:56
along. Oh, she didn't get a word in
- 23:58
edgewise. I was like, I got to go. And
- 23:59
she was like, oh, it's so lovely. I
- 24:01
said, no, no, don't even worry about
- 24:02
that.
- 24:04
You just have a good night, ma'am. I'm
- 24:06
going to head on out. We're going to get
- 24:07
you in the car now and you're going to
- 24:08
we're going to get you home because
- 24:10
literally I turned around maybe 3 ft.
- 24:13
Middle of a party. Middle of a party.
- 24:16
Screamed top of my lungs. Turned around
- 24:18
at Cara and I was like And she was still
- 24:21
very close. Yeah, she was super close. I
- 24:22
could have walked a bit further, but I
- 24:25
was so I was like, I can't do this. It
- 24:28
was the greatest night of my life. Do
- 24:29
you want Do you want to meet her again?
- 24:31
And do you think you'll be cooler when
- 24:32
you No, that's it. We can't talk. You
- 24:35
mean like sometimes you just don't want
- 24:37
to meet I can't I can't also she'll be
- 24:40
like this woman just screamed like 2
- 24:41
feet away from me and I'll be like I
- 24:42
totally did. I'm so sorry. Like how
- 24:44
could I ever do that around your your
- 24:46
ears? She probably is used to people
- 24:48
like hearing people totally Yeah. tweak
- 24:52
tweak after they meet her. For sure. I
- 24:54
once met Prince at SNL. Um he came off
- 24:57
stage after doing soundcheck and walked
- 24:59
past me and I said, "How was your
- 25:01
summer?" That was what I said to him.
- 25:03
What did he say? He was like, he just
- 25:05
went like, "Hey." You know,
- 25:08
like, "Can you imagine that being the
- 25:10
question you asked Prince?" Yeah. Um
- 25:12
terrible. No, it's good. Okay. Let me
- 25:14
talk about your album. Okay. Because
- 25:17
this music, your record, what's the name
- 25:18
of your record? Bite me. Amazing. Yeah.
- 25:22
I kind of forgot was like I was like,
- 25:25
"Yeah, got it." Yeah. Okay. Bite me. So
- 25:27
incredible. And it is very I was talking
- 25:30
to you when we were Hold on. I got to
- 25:31
play the song. Go because um stream my
- 25:36
[ __ ] Yeah. Okay. So that's what music
- 25:37
is is you stream it now. I guess. Yeah.
- 25:40
You just stream it now.
- 25:44
[Applause]
- 25:45
It's funny that you say cannonball.
- 25:47
Sorry. You're so cute. No, please don't.
- 25:50
Hold on. Nana needs to listen to it
- 25:51
again. Hold on, Nana. Um, come on, Nana.
- 25:54
It's funny. Come on, Nana. Let's go.
- 25:55
Nana's get on up.
- 25:59
No, but you know what's funny that you
- 26:01
say cannonball in it cuz it did have a
- 26:03
Breeders vibe. Like there's a heavy like
- 26:06
PJ Harvey vibe like and what and what I
- 26:11
like about your music is I feel like I'm
- 26:14
in conversation with you. You You're in
- 26:16
conversation with us. Totally. I mean
- 26:18
hopefully yeah and there's not to get
- 26:20
too you know like but I did um you know
- 26:23
I don't always do research on the guests
- 26:25
cuz like I understand um cuz I'm like
- 26:28
it's okay of course but um I did listen
- 26:30
to all of your songs many many times. Oh
- 26:32
my god. Thank you. And so I just want to
- 26:34
I want everyone to know that but no but
- 26:36
um two songs that the one Why is she
- 26:39
still here and I can't be is it I can't
- 26:41
be around you anymore. Oh yeah. Yeah.
- 26:44
Those two songs everyone listen to those
- 26:47
two. They feel like they're from the
- 26:50
perspective of a two women in the same
- 26:52
like it it's it's very cool coupling
- 26:55
those two songs. They're great songs.
- 26:57
Thank you. Thank you. They're they're
- 26:59
like some of my favorites. That is true.
- 27:01
They're kind of A and B to each other.
- 27:02
Right. One is like why is she still
- 27:04
here? What's going on? And the other is
- 27:07
there's something going on. We can't
- 27:09
really handle and I can't be around you
- 27:11
anymore is that's a killer song. Thank
- 27:14
you. I I'm obsessed with that song. I
- 27:16
love that song. And that's a good
- 27:17
example, I feel like, of where you're
- 27:19
able to show like show restraint cuz you
- 27:21
have to kind of sing it. You're you're
- 27:23
you're singing it in a way that really
- 27:25
makes us feel some like really feel it
- 27:28
deeply. It's so good. Thanks. It's
- 27:30
really It's It's going to be a late
- 27:32
night driving song for a lot of people.
- 27:34
That's
- 27:36
it is for me. Yeah. 100%. And it's going
- 27:38
to be the kind of song that people send
- 27:40
to each other like, "Hey." And they're
- 27:41
just going to send it and be like, "I
- 27:43
can't see you anymore cuz we're we have
- 27:45
too much chemistry." Hey, girl. Exo. XO.
- 27:48
They're like, "We're actually I mean, is
- 27:50
there anything hotter than being like,
- 27:51
"We can't see each other anymore." So
- 27:53
hot. Yeah. It's like, "We literally
- 27:55
can't. We have You have to leave me
- 27:56
alone." Of course. So then you do. You
- 27:58
have to see that person again. Yeah.
- 28:00
Must all the time. You can't you you
- 28:02
have to, but you can't. It's too
- 28:04
dangerous. It's forbidden. It's
- 28:06
forbidden. Romeo and Juliet. Damsel.
- 28:08
[ __ ] Balcony. Yeah. Yeah. Speaking of
- 28:12
suicide, balcony suicide. Balcony
- 28:15
suicide. Um, watch. Speaking of love,
- 28:18
suicide.
- 28:21
Speaking of love. Mhm. How did you meet
- 28:24
your girlfriend? Um, similarly locked
- 28:27
her in my house. Kind of same thing to
- 28:29
Beyonce. Um, Toa Bird for people who
- 28:33
don't know, an incredible musician,
- 28:36
um, opened for you and was kind of
- 28:39
discovered. um like online, right? Like
- 28:42
performing and doing videos like during
- 28:44
the pandemic online. Yes. Yeah. We
- 28:45
always joke around that we're like the
- 28:47
two Tik Tok signings at at our at our
- 28:50
label. I had known of her for like the
- 28:52
longest time cuz she's super talented
- 28:54
and is really sexy. And so obviously I
- 28:59
knew of her and um cuz all the sexy you
- 29:02
you clock all the sexy. Yeah. Yeah. I
- 29:04
have like a rolodex. I got a list and
- 29:05
like who's hot. Got it. Um, but yeah,
- 29:10
she I was I just always like thought she
- 29:12
was just so [ __ ] cool. And I had
- 29:16
asked one of my best friends to
- 29:18
introduce me to her. And
- 29:22
yeah, I was like, "You have to introduce
- 29:23
me to her." He was like, "I don't know
- 29:24
if she's like um in a place in her life
- 29:27
where she's like wanting to like meet
- 29:29
anyone." I was like, "I really couldn't
- 29:30
give a [ __ ] less." Um I'm not either,
- 29:33
but I'm going to meet her. We need to be
- 29:35
at least be friends. Yeah. You were
- 29:37
like, I there's something about her that
- 29:39
feels Yeah. I was like, I need like I I
- 29:42
need to know her like super bad. And so
- 29:45
then he introduced me to her and she was
- 29:47
so [ __ ] mean to me. And I was like,
- 29:50
wait, in what way? That loved it. But
- 29:53
she's scary. She's like, yeah, well,
- 29:56
she's like from the UK, so like her
- 29:58
humor is also super different, but she's
- 30:00
also just such a [ __ ] Tell what did
- 30:02
she say? Well, I was like, I've heard so
- 30:05
much about you. And she was like, "Why
- 30:07
are you talking so much about me then?"
- 30:09
And I was like, "She's really negging
- 30:10
you." Yeah. I was like, "Oh my god." And
- 30:12
then speaking of negging, the next time
- 30:14
we talked, I was We were talking about
- 30:16
Cars cuz I love Cars and also the movie.
- 30:20
Good animated film. Holy [ __ ] I always
- 30:23
say, "Holy shit." I always say that
- 30:25
Larry the Cable Guy should have been
- 30:26
nominated for an Oscar. I mean, it's
- 30:28
horrible. His performance as to
- 30:31
unfucking real.
- 30:33
hear laughter and that's rude because
- 30:35
it's true. It is true. He his
- 30:37
performance is incredible in cars. No,
- 30:38
it's it's stunning. Agree. It's
- 30:39
stunning. I just rewatched Cars too
- 30:41
recently. I cried in bed obsessed with
- 30:43
it. But anyway, how [ __ ] Oh, okay. So,
- 30:46
we were talking about cars and she was
- 30:48
telling me what kind of car she drove at
- 30:50
the time and I was like, "Oh, that's so
- 30:51
interesting. I wouldn't like peg you for
- 30:52
someone who would drive a car." And she
- 30:54
looked at me or who would drive a car
- 30:55
who would drive that kind of car. And
- 30:56
she was like, "Oh, you don't want to peg
- 30:58
me?" And I was like I was like, "Oh my
- 31:00
god." I was freaking I was like freak. I
- 31:02
was like, I am so confident and so like
- 31:05
she she she o she she over she went over
- 31:08
the top. She she topped a top. She
- 31:11
literally topped to top. She outflirted
- 31:13
me. She tiptoed. She tip top to top. She
- 31:15
tiptoed on my top. You like confidence.
- 31:18
Love. Okay. Love. And what would be
- 31:22
Okay, so she's super confident and then
- 31:24
you're like, "Okay, now now she's a
- 31:26
challenge." Yeah, of course. I was like,
- 31:27
"Now now I'm like you just you you you
- 31:30
want me so bad. Just say it. You want
- 31:32
me. That is true. Yeah. It was awesome.
- 31:34
Yeah. And so then you started dating.
- 31:37
Yeah. Then we started dating. And then
- 31:38
who said I love you first? She she told
- 31:42
me I'm so sorry but she told me we were
- 31:46
sat on the beach and hi um out of our
- 31:51
minds. Okay. Sorry. And I was so beyond
- 31:56
in love with her. Like I've never been
- 31:58
so scared to like fall in love with
- 32:00
somebody in my life. I was like, "Oh
- 32:01
Jesus." I was like, "We're either going
- 32:02
to get married or I can never speak to
- 32:04
her again." Like it's like that kind of
- 32:06
like I just am so I like worship her. I
- 32:10
think she's perfect. And yeah, she was
- 32:14
like, "I think I'm falling in love with
- 32:15
you." And I literally didn't answer.
- 32:16
Didn't say a word. I'm on shrooms. The
- 32:20
sun is setting. I'm like, "It's a bit
- 32:22
cold. There's like a Tik Tocker behind
- 32:25
us that I'm obsessed with." Who? Which
- 32:26
one? Her name is Flossy Baby. Oh, I
- 32:28
know. Flossy Baby. She couldn't be more
- 32:30
hilarious. She was behind you during it.
- 32:32
She's behind us on the beach, but I
- 32:34
can't say anything to her cuz I'm like,
- 32:35
Flossy, she doesn't know me at this
- 32:37
point. Yeah. A lot going on. Yeah, we
- 32:39
know each other now cuz I broke
- 32:40
everything down to her on to's birthday
- 32:41
cuz I invited her. I said, you don't
- 32:42
understand what a big part of our lives
- 32:44
you are. Flossy baby. I'm obsessed with
- 32:47
her. And so to was telling me this and I
- 32:50
was like and but I was hi distracted by
- 32:53
Flossy Baby. I was like I was like I was
- 32:56
like there's no way she just said this
- 32:57
to me and what if I'm receiving it wrong
- 32:59
because of things that are impairing uh
- 33:02
yeah my thought process and natural
- 33:04
plants. So I didn't say anything and I
- 33:06
said
- 33:08
repeat one more time and she was like
- 33:11
are you [ __ ] kidding me right now? I
- 33:13
was like sorry sorry let me lock back
- 33:14
in. I love you too. Like I was like of
- 33:17
course and it was the craziest I love
- 33:20
you too. Of course I wait love you too.
- 33:22
I love you too. Of course, honey, you're
- 33:24
so cute. And yeah, I was just like, I'm
- 33:27
obsessed with you. And Flossy Baby's
- 33:28
here, too. It was awesome. It was
- 33:31
awesome. It was so fun. It was so fun.
- 33:34
Wow. So, it really feels like real true,
- 33:38
beautiful love. I love love. That's so
- 33:41
great. And what is it like working
- 33:43
together? You guys have been on like do
- 33:45
you tour together now still? We did. I
- 33:47
mean, she'll we'll like we'll go out for
- 33:50
shows for Will she be playing with you
- 33:52
for any of these shows that you're going
- 33:53
to do? 100%. Wow. What's that like? How
- 33:56
do you stay
- 33:58
in love and work together? It's not
- 34:01
always easy. No, I mean she like I think
- 34:04
I just respect her so much as a musician
- 34:06
that
- 34:08
I
- 34:09
am kind of always looking to her. Um,
- 34:13
like seeking her approval kind of sounds
- 34:16
like she's doing something really
- 34:17
terrible to me, but like I'm like I'm
- 34:19
always Yeah. Like I want to know. I I
- 34:22
really respect her opinion. I really
- 34:24
respect her opinion. And I think she has
- 34:25
amazing taste. And I think that there
- 34:28
are so many things and and ways that
- 34:30
she's so much smarter than me. And I
- 34:32
love having that in a partner because I
- 34:35
want to learn from her all the time. Um,
- 34:39
but there have also been times where
- 34:40
like we've worked in sessions together
- 34:42
and we're writing for each other's
- 34:44
projects and um, she's super fun to
- 34:47
write with. so easy to collaborate with.
- 34:50
And I don't think I'm as much like that
- 34:52
for her cuz we were writing and God
- 34:54
bless her, we we like left and I was
- 34:57
like, "You seem you seem a bit upset
- 34:59
with me." And she was like, "No, I just
- 35:02
like I don't think I I don't think you
- 35:04
needed to like nitpick my vocals all
- 35:08
that much." And I was like, "Got it, got
- 35:10
it, got it." So, what had happened was I
- 35:12
was like trying to vocal produce her on
- 35:14
like a demo for like the better part of
- 35:17
an hour and a half and I was like again
- 35:20
again. You were like I I I can tell when
- 35:22
you're a little flat. Yeah. Is it Sorry.
- 35:24
Do you know where you were wrong? She
- 35:26
was like cool. So, I don't know if she
- 35:28
wants to work with me again, but but I
- 35:31
love working with her. Love working with
- 35:33
her. I don't think I'm maybe the person
- 35:34
for her, which I totally get. I'm a bit
- 35:37
neurotic. It's funny. You are a bit
- 35:40
neurotic. You don't seem neurotic. Um,
- 35:42
in like a studio setting, I I'm pretty
- 35:45
insufferable to be around. You want to
- 35:46
get it right. Yeah, it's got to be. It's
- 35:49
got to be it.
- 35:57
the two of you are very very sweet
- 35:59
together and very very like you know I
- 36:02
know that the you know the people that
- 36:03
are fans of yours like already know this
- 36:05
but
- 36:07
you're very um you're very sweet example
- 36:11
I think of like a beautiful young
- 36:14
lesbian couple that are very open and
- 36:18
very loving in real time and it goes
- 36:21
back to I think Renee something that's
- 36:23
very special about you which is you very
- 36:26
generously like shared
- 36:29
in many ways with the world your own
- 36:31
journey about how you wanted to identify
- 36:34
and I'm thinking about this story that I
- 36:36
heard when you did SNL
- 36:40
and you were working with the writer
- 36:41
Celeste and do you want to tell that
- 36:43
story? I mean it's the best. It's the
- 36:45
incredible story. It's so it's it's the
- 36:47
best. I So they Celeste and a couple of
- 36:51
other people had written into the skit
- 36:54
that I was doing. Um they're like,
- 36:57
"Okay, we're going to call you a little
- 36:58
bisexual intern." And at that time I was
- 37:01
like very like publicly bisexual. I had
- 37:03
been for a very long time. And like in
- 37:06
private I was like talking with my
- 37:07
girlfriend and a lot of my friends for
- 37:09
the last maybe like 8 months before that
- 37:11
of being like I actually like don't
- 37:13
really feel very like by at the moment.
- 37:16
And I feel like very much like a lesbian
- 37:19
and like it feels so nice and like that
- 37:22
word feels amazing and feels very like
- 37:24
euphoric for me. So I was like do you
- 37:27
think that we could just change it to
- 37:29
like gay? cuz I was honestly a little I
- 37:31
don't know like labeling yourself
- 37:33
publicly is
- 37:35
really really really empowering and also
- 37:39
I think can be kind of intimidating
- 37:42
because you're like Jesus [ __ ] Christ
- 37:44
this feels so good for me right now and
- 37:46
I don't want to go by something that
- 37:48
doesn't feel correct but I'm also going
- 37:51
to like give myself the willingness to
- 37:53
be like what if in 10 years I don't like
- 37:56
that identity either and I just want I
- 38:00
don't know like what if in 10 years I'm
- 38:01
completely different in terms of my
- 38:03
identity and sexuality or like my gender
- 38:05
expression, anything like that. Or if I
- 38:08
decide to be a really nice person, then
- 38:10
I want to be like, wait, I'm [ __ ]
- 38:11
nice now, right? I want to have the
- 38:13
grace to be able to change from being a
- 38:15
[ __ ] to being a sweetheart. So,
- 38:17
whatever. But yeah, I I was just like I
- 38:20
maybe like gay, I don't know. And
- 38:22
Celeste was like, "Fuck yeah." Like
- 38:24
literally whatever you want. And I was
- 38:25
like, "Okay, a [ __ ] love Celeste."
- 38:28
And then I was talking to Bowen about it
- 38:30
and I was like I kind of just want to be
- 38:32
like
- 38:34
like slur. No, I kind of just want to be
- 38:36
like like lesbian. I was like I'm just
- 38:38
going to kind of do it. And I called Toa
- 38:40
and then I was like babe I think I'm
- 38:42
just going to like rip like I think it
- 38:43
like feels good also to like come out as
- 38:46
a lesbian and like SNL is like pretty
- 38:48
[ __ ] I was like I'm going to do it for
- 38:50
sure. And I was also like, "Okay, I'm
- 38:53
probably going to disappoint a lot of
- 38:54
people who felt like they connected with
- 38:56
like the very openly bisexual part of
- 38:58
me, and I'm also probably going to piss
- 38:59
a lot of other people off." And I was
- 39:01
like, "Okay, what else do I live to do
- 39:03
other than like cause like a
- 39:04
controversy? Sue me." Like, fine. Okay.
- 39:08
What a big [ __ ] problem. So then I
- 39:10
just I wanted to do it and Bowen and
- 39:12
Celeste and everybody were like, "Hell
- 39:14
yeah." What's been the feedback?
- 39:17
What how did it feel to do it? And what
- 39:19
did anything change after you did it? I
- 39:21
mean, I definitely I kind of just like
- 39:23
didn't even like look online afterward
- 39:25
cuz I was like I don't How did it feel
- 39:27
in your life? In your real life?
- 39:29
Nothing. Amazing. So [ __ ] good. Like
- 39:32
so [ __ ] good. I think also just like
- 39:34
being from somewhere incredibly rural.
- 39:38
Um, you know, you
- 39:42
I don't know like you don't like it's
- 39:45
just like it's like [ __ ] like Maggot
- 39:47
Town where I grew up at and like it
- 39:49
always has been and it's probably better
- 39:51
now than it was when I was a kid or it's
- 39:53
10 times worse in so many ways. So I
- 39:56
think for me I was like it was it was
- 39:59
really interesting because I think a lot
- 40:00
of the people who I grew up around who
- 40:02
were incredibly homophobic are very
- 40:04
supportive of me now that I am like a
- 40:08
public person because I think the idea
- 40:11
of fame and wealth can sometimes trump
- 40:14
hate if it's close in proximity which is
- 40:17
really [ __ ] frustrating cuz I'm like
- 40:19
I know you don't like anybody else who's
- 40:21
gay and you don't like me either. You
- 40:23
just like the idea of the closeness to
- 40:26
like something that is very shallow. So
- 40:29
much so that you're willing to like put
- 40:31
your bigotry to the side for a second to
- 40:33
be like, "Oh, I babysat her." I'm like,
- 40:35
"No, you're a [ __ ] homophobe and I
- 40:37
don't like you to the day and I will
- 40:40
never like you." My neighbors are
- 40:41
boycotting Target for having like a
- 40:43
pride line. I'm like, "I could give a
- 40:45
[ __ ] about y'all. I could give a [ __ ]
- 40:47
about y'all." So that in that way really
- 40:50
frustrated me cuz I was like you don't
- 40:52
get to be like supportive of this thing
- 40:54
now that it's easy for you and fun for
- 40:56
you and something for you to [ __ ]
- 40:58
brag about. Yeah. You must feel very
- 41:00
used. So used. So used. And then on the
- 41:05
other side of that, I like love being a
- 41:08
lesbian and I love the lesbian community
- 41:10
so much and I love like the communities
- 41:11
surrounding lesbians that like
- 41:15
like really [ __ ] with us. I don't know.
- 41:16
So there's like there's really bad and
- 41:19
there's really really good. Yeah. Yeah.
- 41:21
Um I also like I love to watch people
- 41:24
come out publicly who feel like they can
- 41:27
and then like change their identity or
- 41:30
not. It's just kind of I don't know.
- 41:32
It's not for everyone but like for me it
- 41:34
was definitely an integral part of my
- 41:36
life. Well I think what you're talking
- 41:38
about is that by doing it you're just
- 41:41
kind of like leading by example. this
- 41:44
idea that
- 41:46
everything doesn't have to be so
- 41:48
serious. Like you can decide if as long
- 41:50
as it's you deciding like then you can
- 41:53
decide however and whenever and wherever
- 41:55
you want. It can be in your parents
- 41:57
house. It can be on SNL. It can be in a
- 42:00
relationship. Like that is I think what
- 42:04
if I may speak for myself like what Gen
- 42:06
Z has done for me, right? What young
- 42:09
people do for me is I came up at a time
- 42:11
when labels meant meant so much. They
- 42:15
were
- 42:16
not only were they lifelong, they were
- 42:18
like tattoos, right? So people were very
- 42:21
very afraid like what if I get something
- 42:23
wrong? Basically, what if I get it wrong
- 42:25
or like to your point, what if I want to
- 42:27
change or what if I'm kind of 10% this
- 42:30
and 90% that or what if I'm in the
- 42:32
middle? There was no there was it was
- 42:34
really binary. Yeah. And Gen Z because
- 42:36
life has been so serious. Gen Z has kind
- 42:40
of balanced it by saying like it's not
- 42:43
that serious. Yeah. It's not that it's
- 42:45
okay. It's make a mistake or not.
- 42:47
Totally. Decide however you want. Relax.
- 42:50
And there's some way that you did that
- 42:52
and the way that you do that, the way
- 42:54
you live authentically, that's very
- 42:55
relaxing. Mhm. And I think it's very
- 42:58
cool. Yeah. Thanks. It's nice. I I like
- 43:02
I don't know. I enjoy it. I also just
- 43:05
have like a big like group of like gay
- 43:08
friends around me. Like I like have like
- 43:10
my like gaggle of lesbians. So speaking
- 43:13
of please um we do a thing here where we
- 43:16
ask your friends or people that know you
- 43:18
to talk well behind your back. They talk
- 43:21
[ __ ] about me. No. Okay. I believe it.
- 43:25
It's totally fine. No. It's got No, it's
- 43:27
like it's like um it's like the on the
- 43:30
It's like Mean Girls but not Mean Girls.
- 43:32
It's the other side of it, which is
- 43:34
basically we got um Cara Deivine. We
- 43:37
talked to her today. [ __ ]
- 43:40
Such a [ __ ] [ __ ]
- 43:43
[ __ ] Common [ __ ] Incredible. By the
- 43:45
way, when we called her, she was in
- 43:47
Paris and there was her her her partner
- 43:49
was naked in the bed and so she was
- 43:52
wearing headphones and like she looked
- 43:54
she's so I mean superm models.
- 43:58
Models are so hot. Models are so hot. We
- 44:00
got to start talking about it more.
- 44:01
Models are so [ __ ] hot. Let's just be
- 44:03
clear. Models are so [ __ ] hot. I know
- 44:06
a lot of Yeah, this is a hot take.
- 44:08
Models are hot. Models are hot. Yeah.
- 44:10
And they're pretty. They're pretty on
- 44:12
camera. They're pretty during the day.
- 44:14
They're pretty during the night. All the
- 44:15
time. Yeah. Literally all the time.
- 44:17
Yeah. Good job. Models. Cara wanted me
- 44:19
to ask you a couple questions. Oh,
- 44:20
please. I'm sure they're She had
- 44:22
incredible questions. I was going to say
- 44:23
I'm sure they're very PG and and very
- 44:26
normal. Okay. And super Yeah, totally.
- 44:29
First of all, what would your drag king
- 44:31
name be? Oh my god. I know. I got I'll
- 44:34
I'll let you think. It's so good. I got
- 44:36
a little put on the spot and I Yeah.
- 44:38
What did you say? Well, I picked what um
- 44:42
I I got nervous. That's okay. So, um I
- 44:46
said, you know, like when you're trying
- 44:47
when you're trying to figure out like
- 44:48
your dancer name, your exotic dancer
- 44:51
name, you do the um street that you grew
- 44:54
up on and the your first pet. Oh, no. I
- 44:58
didn't know that. Okay, this is cuz I
- 45:00
What is this? It's probably because I
- 45:03
this was said in like 1978. It's good.
- 45:06
But um so my the street So I said
- 45:09
Bradley Alangquin was my drag king name
- 45:11
because that was the street I grew up on
- 45:13
and I had a guinea pig named Bradley.
- 45:15
Oh, I thought your guinea pig's name was
- 45:16
Al Gangquin. No, I was like wait. Yeah,
- 45:20
yeah, I know. But so so but anyway,
- 45:22
we'll cut this part out. But no, I like
- 45:24
it. I like it. I actually think it's
- 45:26
pretty strong.
- 45:28
There's nothing worse than giving a drag
- 45:30
name and people going, "Wait, what?
- 45:32
Explain it." And then you have to
- 45:34
explain it and then they go, "No, I like
- 45:35
it." Well, Al Gangquin is where I was
- 45:38
like I was more just like, "Where's the
- 45:40
guinea pig?" Yeah. Al Gangquin.
- 45:42
Actually, yeah. So, but that was your
- 45:44
street name. So, I just gave that to
- 45:46
myself. But again, no one's ever going
- 45:48
to hear this. We're going to cut all
- 45:49
this out. And my social security is as
- 45:51
follows. Okay.
- 45:54
So, what is your drag king name? And do
- 45:57
you like I mean I I actually have to say
- 46:00
like what I really love about you is
- 46:02
like your experimentation with mask and
- 46:04
fem. You do it a lot in your in your
- 46:06
work and in the way you dress and I
- 46:08
really relate to that because I'm always
- 46:10
very confused about how to dress. 100
- 46:13
100 fucking%. Very confused. And you
- 46:15
present both often. Like you're you go
- 46:18
back and forth and again you're showing
- 46:19
us by example that you don't have to
- 46:21
choose. Thanks. I've like watched so
- 46:23
many people do it so well and who does
- 46:26
it well? I mean, not to be like so
- 46:29
annoying, but like my girlfriend does it
- 46:31
really well. I wasn't going to say, but
- 46:32
she really does do it well. Like she's
- 46:34
fine as hell. What are you going to do?
- 46:36
Yeah. Take me out. Like it's fine. She
- 46:38
really does. Um, [ __ ] I don't know. I
- 46:42
mean, I boed I didn't know how to answer
- 46:43
it. It's a really good question. I mean,
- 46:46
we could think of some fun pun like um
- 46:49
you know, instead of
- 46:52
you know, we instead of um Timothy
- 46:55
Shalamé, you could be called Timothy
- 46:58
Shallay.
- 47:01
Is that good? That
- 47:04
That's it.
- 47:06
That's actually it, right? I can't even
- 47:09
explain to you how much exactly that is
- 47:14
it.
- 47:15
But it is. Oh my god, we did it. That's
- 47:18
perfect. And then the other question she
- 47:20
had, which was amazing. I'm sure. Who
- 47:22
would be in your girl band? If you could
- 47:24
put together a girl band, dead or alive,
- 47:27
if you could put together a girl band.
- 47:28
Good. Good question. Oh my god. Okay, I
- 47:30
have a real one and I have a fake one.
- 47:32
Okay, great. Okay, the real one would be
- 47:34
me, Karen Carpenter. Um,
- 47:38
uh Beyonce
- 47:40
and
- 47:43
Oh, maybe like Queen Latifah or
- 47:45
something amazing. Something so sick.
- 47:47
Dana Owens. I'm like, I love Queen
- 47:50
Latifah. I'm like, please. That would be
- 47:52
so hard. Have you Have you ever met her?
- 47:55
Again, I was forced. Yeah. By Cara. How
- 47:59
funny. She takes me up to everybody that
- 48:01
I'm scared of. She is so great. Like no
- 48:05
surprise, but she's [ __ ] amazing.
- 48:07
She's amazing. She's [ __ ] amazing.
- 48:09
She's so [ __ ] cool. And it was also
- 48:11
just like so she is like timeless. She's
- 48:13
so timeless to me. So that's your real
- 48:15
band. Then what about you said you had a
- 48:17
fake one. Yes. Fake band is me, Nene
- 48:19
Leaks, Ellen DeGeneres, and Wendy
- 48:21
Williams.
- 48:24
That's the one I want.
- 48:26
That's the one I want. Yeah, that makes
- 48:29
sense. I want that bad. keep talking
- 48:31
about it. I'll take Who would be your
- 48:33
manager of that band? Um, probably Cara.
- 48:37
She'd manage it. Yeah. Yeah, she'd she'd
- 48:40
manage it. I don't know how much like
- 48:42
managing would be like done, but I know
- 48:44
that she'd manage it. And who would be
- 48:46
your opening act if you guys went on the
- 48:48
road? Maybe like um like you as your
- 48:51
character from Inside Out. Oh my god. I
- 48:54
would dress up as Joy and be your
- 48:55
opening act. Yeah, that'd be super cute.
- 48:58
That would be but no like head like face
- 49:01
paint. Okay. Like your true face. Yeah,
- 49:04
that would be like an acid trip. I would
- 49:06
love to do acid while doing that.
- 49:10
Totally. I'd be like, "This is [ __ ]
- 49:12
awesome." And then we also get Ellen to
- 49:14
like do Dory as well. That would Oh,
- 49:18
hold on. Now I see it now. Thank you for
- 49:19
that. That's great. So, I'll come out as
- 49:22
Joy from Inside Out and then Ellen will
- 49:24
join me as Dory. Oh my [ __ ] And then
- 49:26
you assume that's all we're going to see
- 49:27
about crying. She comes back. She washes
- 49:31
her face paint off and she comes back in
- 49:33
the van as a girl group. Yeah.
- 49:36
I mean, [ __ ] Yeah. [ __ ] is right.
- 49:39
That's sold out. As you as you would
- 49:41
say, that [ __ ] No, that [ __ ] Yeah,
- 49:42
that [ __ ] That does [ __ ] Yeah. Um,
- 49:44
now, um, what are you listening to these
- 49:47
days, watching, doing? Like how do you
- 49:50
check out when you're like when you need
- 49:53
to rest your brain or get away from the
- 49:55
hard stuff? What's making you laugh?
- 49:58
What are you Where do you go? I watch
- 50:00
Are you Oh, sorry. Go. No. What do you
- 50:02
watch? No, I'll cut myself. I love to
- 50:04
hear what people are watching. I watch
- 50:05
SVU.
- 50:07
Okay. I watch SVU. Which one? Law and
- 50:10
Order with um Christopher Maloney. Uh
- 50:14
Metate. That's right. So, talk to me
- 50:16
about why that um that that's a good
- 50:19
checkout for you. I love them. Yeah, I
- 50:21
love them. Like, what the [ __ ] are you
- 50:22
doing? Yeah. It's also the writing on
- 50:25
that show is so crazy. It's so crazy.
- 50:29
It's like got a burp dead. Yep. What a
- 50:33
shame. Raped. Absolutely. Whoa. No
- 50:36
trigger warning, right? And then it's
- 50:37
like cut. It's so intense and there's so
- 50:41
much going on. and you're like, "Holy
- 50:42
[ __ ] this is um either I can't tell if
- 50:46
this is awesome or if it's so so bad."
- 50:49
And I think everyone would agree with
- 50:51
that. It's quick and I need something
- 50:54
that's quick cuz I don't want time to
- 50:55
think about something else cuz then I'll
- 50:57
start tweaking. And I also think
- 50:59
Christopher Maloney is kind of [ __ ]
- 51:01
jacked. And it's it's hot. He's not kind
- 51:04
of [ __ ] jacked. Super jacked. Have
- 51:06
you ever seen the picture of him in like
- 51:08
a middle split when he did like Men's
- 51:10
Health? this one. Love it. I'm going to
- 51:13
say something. And I love Christopher
- 51:14
Maloney. I did a movie with him. I don't
- 51:16
like men doing splits. Can I be honest?
- 51:19
I don't like I don't find that
- 51:20
attractive. I Yeah. Straight woman.
- 51:23
Totally. I don't enjoy flexible men. I
- 51:26
couldn't agree more. I don't like Oh,
- 51:30
this is And some of my friends do this
- 51:32
and that's okay. I do just want to flag
- 51:34
some of y'all do this and that's all
- 51:35
right.
- 51:38
I'm not big into boys flipping doing
- 51:41
back flips. We got to cut that out. Oh,
- 51:43
I don't like Okay. And this is just my
- 51:46
person, right? You don't even like boys,
- 51:47
but this is just my personal preference.
- 51:49
But I totally agree. Any kind of like
- 51:52
goofy gymnastics. Totally. I've just
- 51:55
been like verbally and physically
- 51:57
assaulted by too many like um theater
- 52:00
boys, theater like twinks, the straight
- 52:03
theater twinks who ruined my life as
- 52:05
kids who were like, "Wait, I I do a
- 52:07
flip." And so the director was like,
- 52:08
"Front and center. Front and center."
- 52:11
Like do that flip. Yeah. They're like,
- 52:12
"Come on. Come on, Joey." And like Joy's
- 52:15
only getting front and center because
- 52:17
the director has a massive crush on him
- 52:18
and he can do a flip. This is before
- 52:20
your time, but there was a movie, a
- 52:22
great movie called The Outsiders. Do you
- 52:23
know that movie? heard of it. Okay. So,
- 52:25
it was like based off of a book and it
- 52:27
was all young Rob and young um Patrick
- 52:30
Sees and all these boys and Tom Cruz is
- 52:34
famously in it and he's one of the and
- 52:36
it's one of his first films and he's
- 52:37
like one of the bad guys and I remember
- 52:39
being like he's cool and then he does a
- 52:41
backflip in it and I was like tapped out
- 52:44
immediately out immediately out. I lost
- 52:46
he lost it for me. There's something
- 52:47
about it that's a bit vulnerable. I'm
- 52:49
like wait cut that out. You're a boy.
- 52:50
What are you doing? Yeah. And and look,
- 52:53
I've seen you lift your leg. You are
- 52:55
very flexible.
- 52:58
Now, girls can be flexible. Boys
- 53:00
shouldn't be flexible. Boys shouldn't be
- 53:01
allowed to be flexible. Cut that [ __ ]
- 53:02
out. Cut that [ __ ] out now. But I've
- 53:05
seen you sing and lift your leg like
- 53:07
this where your leg is like up. And that
- 53:09
that too is similar to the flipping.
- 53:12
Something that people shouldn't do when
- 53:14
they're singing. If you can do it, you
- 53:16
should do it all the time. Oh, if you're
- 53:17
like dancing or doing something [ __ ]
- 53:19
incredible, absolutely. But like people
- 53:21
shouldn't do what I did. That was weird.
- 53:23
I take back my thing though about boys
- 53:25
in gymnastics for one one reason. Two
- 53:28
times I found men doing gymnastics
- 53:30
exciting. One was in Foot Loose when
- 53:34
Kevin Bacon's stunt double um during his
- 53:38
dance break. He swung on a high bar in a
- 53:42
barn and I was like, "But that's cool.
- 53:43
That's not cool. That was cool." I was
- 53:45
like, "What are you doing on that pole,
- 53:46
you little [ __ ] That's cute. That's
- 53:49
cute. That was cute. Okay. And I I liked
- 53:52
it and I I didn't it didn't bother me.
- 53:54
Yeah. And um the other one was that
- 53:56
great gymnast that was on the pommel
- 53:58
horse that with the glasses. Obsessive.
- 54:01
Okay. Cute. He can do that. But that's
- 54:03
like their that's his job. That's his
- 54:05
job. You know what? That's his job. If
- 54:07
back flips are your and splits are your
- 54:08
job, do it. Do it 10fold. Go for it.
- 54:11
Love it. You're good at your job.
- 54:12
Commit. If you're just doing it in the
- 54:14
middle of the street,
- 54:16
keep walking. And I'm not saying that
- 54:18
like if I could flip, which I can't. So
- 54:21
I'm not like I'm not hating because I
- 54:23
can't do it. Are you Wait a minute. Hold
- 54:25
on. You just brought something up. Do
- 54:26
you think we're hating on it because we
- 54:27
can't do it? Literally, no. I think it's
- 54:29
weird. I'm sorry. And that's And by the
- 54:31
way, that doesn't mean that other people
- 54:33
should say it's weird about anybody
- 54:35
else, okay? Because I really like I love
- 54:37
my friends and if they want to flip,
- 54:39
[ __ ] flip. It's just not my thing.
- 54:42
It's not my thing. You know, if the back
- 54:44
flippers come for us,
- 54:47
they're going to [ __ ] whatever. I'm
- 54:49
ready. If the back flippers come from
- 54:50
us, we can just run away cuz they're
- 54:52
back flipping all the time. But they'll
- 54:54
kick us. They will kick us. Think about
- 54:56
the strength in that in that thigh. I
- 54:58
mean, have you ever done this where I
- 55:00
love Law and Order? The original Law and
- 55:02
Order, the first like 12 seasons like
- 55:04
with Benji Brat and I've never watched
- 55:06
it.
- 55:09
I'll lock in. It's so good with Jerry
- 55:12
Orbach and Esapatha Merkasen as um the
- 55:16
lieutenant. It's just like it's it's the
- 55:18
early Law and Orders that every it's the
- 55:21
you know Sweet Generous. It's the mother
- 55:23
ship that all of them were based off of
- 55:25
and
- 55:27
they have that little exchange always
- 55:29
before the bump bump and you can
- 55:32
sometimes guess guess the last line.
- 55:34
Absolutely. I love doing that. Oh my
- 55:35
god. There was one last night I wish I
- 55:37
could remember cuz it it's just so
- 55:39
crazy. It's so crazy. It's in I'm like I
- 55:43
can't imagine
- 55:46
delivering that line, right? Like
- 55:48
there's a you know a body found in
- 55:50
Central Park and someone's like, "Yeah,
- 55:52
it was during the marathon, you know,
- 55:54
and uh and uh the the the suspect was
- 55:58
found here under the tree." And then
- 55:59
Jerry Jerry Orbach comes over and just
- 56:01
goes like, "Well, I guess he's not
- 56:02
making it to the finish line today."
- 56:04
Exactly. And you're just like, exactly.
- 56:07
I cannot imagine having to deliver that
- 56:11
line. I would walk out. I'd walk right
- 56:15
on out of a set. I'd be like, you know
- 56:16
what? I disagree. I think you'd nail it.
- 56:18
Oh my god. I could my like what's it? Um
- 56:23
suspension of disbelief or something.
- 56:25
I'm not I'm not good at that. If I get
- 56:27
like if there's a line that I'm like I
- 56:29
can't do this, I like totally shut down
- 56:31
as a as a person. I'm going to say that
- 56:35
you're underestimating yourself because
- 56:36
what I have learned about you, Renee, if
- 56:38
I may, is that you're pretty good at
- 56:41
overriding nerves to get to level up.
- 56:45
You've done it over and over again.
- 56:47
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. How do you get through
- 56:49
the the scary parts? What do you do? I
- 56:53
really just don't take it seriously. I
- 56:54
just do not take it seriously cuz when I
- 56:56
take myself too seriously, I panic.
- 57:00
Yeah. I panic because it's like often
- 57:02
times it's truly not as much as I hate
- 57:05
to say this, it's truly not about me.
- 57:08
So,
- 57:10
and no one [ __ ] use that against me.
- 57:12
But, you know what? I'm going to just
- 57:14
finish by saying this. I've seen
- 57:16
examples of you being you're like a very
- 57:18
loving and supportive person in real
- 57:20
time. And I know that about you and I
- 57:23
heard that about you. Can you advocate
- 57:25
for yourself the same way? Oh,
- 57:26
absolutely. Okay, great. Oh, with a
- 57:28
quickness. with a quickness. Yeah, cuz
- 57:32
like people, you know, kids are
- 57:34
[ __ ] People are [ __ ] I was an
- 57:35
[ __ ] Like I'm sure there were so
- 57:37
many times I can recall that like people
- 57:39
were [ __ ] to me when I was growing
- 57:40
up in school. And I guarantee that there
- 57:42
were 10,000 times that I was so mean to
- 57:45
somebody else for no reason because I
- 57:47
was pissed at myself or pissed off at
- 57:48
somebody else. So like I don't know.
- 57:52
That's not to say that sometimes I'm not
- 57:54
an [ __ ] I totally am. Yeah. But just
- 57:56
like how you said earlier, you may want
- 57:58
to identify as a nice person soon. I
- 58:01
know. I might need to like tap into that
- 58:04
like sort of like little like pigtail
- 58:07
kind of infinity scarf girl again. Oh my
- 58:10
god, we're back to the infinity scarf.
- 58:13
Perfect. Full circle just like the
- 58:14
infinity scarf. Totally. I'm straight
- 58:16
again. You're straight again. I'm
- 58:18
straight again. I'm That's what I do to
- 58:20
people.
- 58:24
Sorry, ladies. I made Renee straight
- 58:26
again. [ __ ] I know. Don't worry. We'll
- 58:28
get her back. We'll get her out of the
- 58:29
room. We'll get her back. Yeah. Come out
- 58:31
with the lesbians. You'll be You'll be
- 58:32
You'll be gay yourself. I I mean I wish
- 58:35
Oh my god. Literally come out. We go out
- 58:36
every weekend. Come out. Where are you
- 58:38
going this weekend? Literally wherever.
- 58:41
Okay. That's not a place. The problem is
- 58:44
wherever. The problem is I go out late.
- 58:46
Um No. Well, yeah, but like you'll
- 58:49
you'll be so fine. I promise. What time
- 58:51
do you get leave the house?
- 58:53
Like what time do you want to leave the
- 58:55
house? I'm asking you what time does
- 58:58
your night start? Like a nine. A nine?
- 59:00
Oh, that's not bad. Yeah, cuz we'll get
- 59:01
like dinner before cuz you need to eat
- 59:03
if you're going to go out. I can't I
- 59:05
can't do two things. It's either one.
- 59:07
It's out or dinner. I get it. I get it.
- 59:08
I get it. You know what? I'm so sorry. I
- 59:10
can't go. That's okay. That's totally
- 59:11
okay. I'm so I'm so stressed. I'm so
- 59:13
tired. Don't worry. Don't worry. And I
- 59:16
know 9 means 9:30 and then it's going to
- 59:18
take to get our food. lesbians super
- 59:21
late and then and then my stomach is
- 59:23
full and you know eating an ant acid.
- 59:26
Yeah. And I'm going to have to take a
- 59:27
pepsit or something. That's okay. But
- 59:28
have a good time and tell me how it
- 59:30
goes. 100%. I'll send you send you
- 59:31
photos. Renee, thank you so much for
- 59:34
doing this. This is so fun. Thanks for
- 59:35
having me. This was a blast.
- 59:39
Thank you Renee Rap. You were awesome.
- 59:41
And um you know this is the part of the
- 59:43
show where I just give little shout
- 59:44
outs. It's the polar plunge if you will
- 59:46
where we go deeper. So, first of all,
- 59:48
check out Flossy Baby on Tik Tok and
- 59:50
probably other platforms. She's
- 59:51
hilarious and she was at the beach when
- 59:53
Renee fell in love, so she's technically
- 59:56
um she's technically uh good luck. Um
- 59:59
and also, uh because we're talking about
- 1:00:01
music, I just want to point out that our
- 1:00:04
theme song, The Good Hang theme song, is
- 1:00:06
written by the great Amy Miles. Amy
- 1:00:08
Miles is a singer songwriter from New
- 1:00:10
York City, my dear friend for over 25
- 1:00:13
years. She's incredibly talented. She
- 1:00:15
wrote this for us and so many of you
- 1:00:17
want to hear the whole song and so um we
- 1:00:20
want you to go to Spotify. Go to Spotify
- 1:00:23
and check out Amy Miles and check out
- 1:00:25
the Good Hang theme song. You can get it
- 1:00:27
there and um show her some love because
- 1:00:30
she's so talented and she's my friend
- 1:00:31
and I love her. Thank you Amy. Okay,
- 1:00:33
thanks everybody. Never know how to end
- 1:00:36
these. Bye.
- 1:00:38
You've been listening to Good Hang. The
- 1:00:40
executive producers for this show are
- 1:00:42
Bill Simmons, Jenna Weiss Berman, and
- 1:00:44
me, Amy Polar. The show is produced by
- 1:00:46
The Ringer and Paperkite. For The
- 1:00:48
Ringer, production by Jack Wilson, Cat
- 1:00:50
Spalain, Kaia McMullen, and Aia Xenerys.
- 1:00:53
For Paperkite, production by Sam Green,
- 1:00:56
Joel Levelvel, and Jenna Weiss Berman.
- 1:00:58
Original music by Amy Miles.
- 1:01:02
really good. Hey